Why We Crave Sexual Novelty–And What It Means For Our Sex Lives

Why We Crave Sexual Novelty–And What It Means For Our Sex Lives

By Dr Justin Lehmiller

May 01, 2017

When our interest in sex starts to wane, exposure to a new or novel partner has a way of bringing it back. This phenomenon–formally dubbed the Coolidge Effect–got its name from a popular anecdote about a visit that U.S. President Calvin Coolidge and his wife supposedly made to a chicken farm. The story goes something like this:

“Mrs. Coolidge, observing the vigor with which one particularly prominent rooster covered hen after hen, asked the guide to make certain that the President took note of the rooster’s behavior. When President Coolidge got to the hen yard, the rooster was pointed out and his exploits recounted by the guide, who added that Mrs. Coolidge had requested that the President be made aware of the rooster’s prowess. The president reflected for a moment and replied, ‘Tell Mrs. Coolidge that there is more than one hen.’” [1]

The Coolidge Effect has been documented in several animal species. For instance, research has found that when a male rat is placed inside a cage with several female rats that are in heat, he will mate with all of them until he appears exhausted. However, if a new female is then introduced to the cage, males often experience an immediately renewed interest in sex and begin mating with her [2].

The Coolidge Effect has been documented in humans as well. For instance, in one study, male participants were either exposed to constant or varied sexual stimuli while their level of sexual arousal was measured by a device that records changes in penile circumference [3]. The men who were repeatedly shown the same stimuli showed less arousal over time (in other words, they demonstrated habituation); by contrast, men who were exposed to varied stimuli maintained higher levels of arousal.

Another study found that, after watching porn clips featuring the same actress over a period of several days, exposure to porn featuring a new actress was linked not only to faster ejaculation, but also the release of more active sperm [4]. This suggest that the Coolidge Effect may have an evolutionarily explanation behind it in that it might potentially increase men’s odds of reproductive success with new partners.

The Coolidge Effect has also been documented in females, although the pattern tends to be somewhat less pronounced. For instance, research on female hamsters has found that after mating with one male hamster until exhaustion, they demonstrate renewed interest in sex when a new male is introduced to the cage [5]. Also, research on women has found that, just like men, they show some degree of habituation in response to repeated presentations of the same erotic stimulus [6]. What this tells us is that the Coolidge Effect isn’t a uniquely male phenomenon by any stretch of the imagination.

“Declining sexual interest in a long-term partner and being excited by variety is probably to be expected, rather than a sign that there’s something wrong with you or your relationship.”

As you might imagine, the Coolidge Effect has important implications for our romantic relationships. In particular, it suggests that declining sexual interest in a long-term partner and being excited by variety is probably to be expected, rather than a sign that there’s something wrong with you or your relationship.

So what can a couple do to combat this potential decrease in sexual interest?

 

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We can take our time and go as fast or slow as you want. Your level of experience doesn’t matter—your willingness does. Let me show you the wonders of sensuality. Let me take you on an erotic journey that will truly blow your mind. I’m certain you’ve thought about that first sexual encounter…a lot, but I guarantee you never thought about it like this.

Sex is a natural part of life—and one of the most delicious parts. With me, it will be an immersive, drive-you-wild, never forgotten experience that allows you to feel things and do things that will surely change your life. Don’t be shy—especially if you’re a virgin. These are the kinds of one-on-one, flesh-to-to-flesh moments I savor the most. The things I will do, the positions we can explore together…you’ll be glad you waited.

 

Back in the Saddle:

Maybe it’s been awhile…We’ve all gone through some experience or life moment that interferes with our sex life. Whether divorced, widowed, or just a little rusty, you can depend on me to tempt you, flirt with you, seduce you, and find that sexual lothario buried within. I will make you feel as sensually explosive as you ever were.

For me, sex is intimately linked with passion. If passion still throbs within your veins and the thought of a soft silky touch makes your body tingle—then you’ve haven’t lost a thing. The erotic part of you is still there dying to get out. Who better to unleash all of that pent up sexual energy on, than an experienced and generous teacher, one with delectable curves and legs that go on for miles. I bet you can feel those legs wrapped around you already.

If you maybe you need a little more time to shake the rust off, then simply lay back and let me do all of the work. Pleasuring is what I’m best at after all. Or, if you want to take the lead, experiment, do those wild and naughty things that perhaps you never had the chance to do before—here I am! Don’t be afraid to climb back in that saddle—I promise I’ll be gentle, unless you don’t want me to.

 

Newbies:

If you’ve never been to a brothel before, I would love to be your willing escort. This could be the most erotic, exciting and passionate experience that you’ve ever had—that is, if you have the right guide. I can be soft and slow when you need, or that wild and exotic beauty that transports you to the brink of the most thrilling sexual moment you’ve ever had.

And we don’t have to dive right in. We can spend some time talking, laughing, cuddling, massaging, let the experience linger. The best part about a legal brothel is that there is no tenseness, no hesitation. I am there for you, ready to accommodate your passions and desires. We can have fun and enjoy every single moment of it together. I love to spoil and pamper—it’s what I’m best at. Especially with first-timers, getting to introduce them to a once-in-a-lifetime erotic experience, well that’s just the cherry on top

 

Erectile Dysfunction:

I can tell you one thing, this is your safe place. You come to me and your experience will be gentle, therapeutic and passionate as hell. So maybe you have a problem in that department, I’ve never met a man who doesn’t still love to be tantalized and perhaps even teased a bit regardless of his current capabilities. Trust me, we’ll find ways to make that passion erupt.

There’s a lot to be said for touching and holding, for feeling our way around one another’s bodies. And my massages, well let’s just say you won’t find this kind of massage in a spa. Even if you are having some performance issues, that shouldn’t stop you from experiencing the most pleasurable thing in life: Sex. I can help you to embrace passion and intimacy again. If you’re nervous and simply want to watch or your wish is to pleasure me, by all means, my body is yours for the asking.

With a certification in sex therapy, I am the perfect go-to girl to cure what ails you. I am the fantasy brought to life; come to me and I will search the depths of your sensual side every way I know how to try and make the magic happen again.

Anything strike a chord with you?  Sound familiar?

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More Than Half Of Men In Relationships Hire Sex Workers

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More Than Half Of Men In Relationships Hire Sex Workers

Nov 14, 2016 By Christine Rivas

When you think of a man hiring a hooker, you might find yourself thinking that they’re being perverts or misogynists, especially if you find out that they’re family men. You might even find yourself judging them when you find out that about half of the men who hire sex workers are men who are in relationships. However, studies have shown that that’s very far from the truth: the men who hire sex workers while in relationships are men that are craving an emotional bond beyond what their relationships are currently giving them. No matter what you think of this morally, the fact remains that this is happening, and there are a lot of reasons why. Here are just a few reasons why men hire sex workers while in relationships.

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